It’s no secret that the holidays can be a busy and stressful time for everyone. Santa is lucky enough to have his elves and Mrs. Claus to help him get everything done but the rest of us are left with the little comfort we can gain from quick conversations with friends in passing at the mall. In order to help my readers in need, this month I have transformed this page into an advice column with answers to your toughest seasonal questions.
Dear Laura,
My daughters swear that the only things they want this year are Zhu Zhu pets, those battery-powered fuzzy hamsters that run on a plastic track. Every toy store is sold out and I don’t want to disappoint. What’s a mom to do?
Desperately Driving to Every Toy Store Within Fifty Miles
Dear Desperately,
When all I wanted was a Cabbage Patch Doll for Christmas 1983, my mom swore she wouldn’t get into a fist fight at Toys R Us about it. Instead, she painstakingly sewed Mary Ellen, a homemade doll that vaguely resembled a Cabbage Patch Kid but without the plastic head, vague baby powder scent or Xavier Roberts signature on its rear end. At the time (and for many years afterwards) I was delighted. In retrospect, maybe it was a tad disappointing to not have the real thing. But, as an adult, I can now see her point. So, to make sure your girls are happy on Christmas morning, surprise them with a real hamster and all the necessary accessories. Sure, it will be a messy, smelly, and expensive winter but your girls will be happy. We hope. Let’s just hope that next year they don’t come out with Lu Lu Pets, battery-powered lions who chase after prey on a plastic track.
Dear Laura,
My holiday to-do list is a mile long. Make cookies, set up the tree, decorate the house, shop, wrap, send out cards, the list goes on and on. How am I ever going to get it all done?
Frazzled Franny
Dear Franny,
I would love to tell you some helpful hints to make your holiday less stressful, but if you’re like the rest of us, you’re not going to sleep well until you’ve done all of those things and done them well. So you have to make four dozen cookies for the cookie exchange? Everyone’s going to know if you use Pillsbury refrigerated dough. Have to decorate the house so it looks like a page from Martha Stewart Living? Start buying as much holly as you can get your hands on and I don’t want to hear any excuses about your son’s allergies. Suck it up. Do you really need six hours of sleep? Think of the uninterrupted time you will have to shop online from Midnight until 3 a.m. You’ll get it all done eventually, Franny. And everyone will think you’re perfect.
Dear Laura,
Do you have any tips to make a holiday party fun and easy?
Hostess with the Mostest
Dear Hostess,
My parents’ house is the hub of all the family activity during the holidays so my mom and dad are often entertaining and cooking for a crowd. At Thanksgiving, the turkey was golden brown, the crowd got along famously, and they even planned a neighborhood scavenger hunt between courses. When I asked my mom for the secret to her success, she had a few tips:
- Have your spouse do the dishes while you’re cooking. It will keep him focused and helpful instead of reading the paper on the couch and asking “Can I help?” every few hours.
- Go to the bathroom before the guests come. Then you won’t have to uncomfortably wait in line for the powder room while the food gets cold and the guests get lonely.
- If you are inviting guests who may get into an argument and cause a scene, designate a third guest as the “hall monitor” to keep their fighting limited to the basement rec room.
My mom is available for private party consultations if you would like more tips. This weekend though, she will be busy setting up a fake holiday party at her home so the local paper can get photographs for a feature they’re doing on cookie exchanges.
Dear Laura,
I don’t know what to get my four-year-old niece for the holidays. She has every toy in the toy store, her bookshelves are packed, and clothes just seem boring. Any ideas?
Aunt Who Doesn’t Want to Gift a Pair of Pants
Dear Aunt Pants,
A few years ago, Santa loaded his sleigh to the very top with toys for our house. He brought trains, cars, dolls, books, and everything else on our kids’ lists. The living room looked like a page from “The Night Before Christmas.” A few days later, the kids were bored again and we were wondering what, if anything, we could have bought to keep them occupied for more than a few days. Coincidentally, on the same day, our washing machine died and we had to dip back into the savings account to buy a new one. After the friendly delivery men installed it, we were left with a giant cardboard box. And that’s when we discovered the perfect gift. Our kids played with that cardboard box until spring. They painted it, cut out doors and windows, and moved half their possessions inside. It was a clubhouse, a restaurant, a school house, and a backyard shed. Auntie, get yourself to an appliance store and ask for directions to their dumpster. Your niece will not be disappointed.
Dear Readers,
Whether you’re racing around like crazy to get everything finished or taking things calmly and rationally, I hope all of you have a happy and safe holiday season. While I love to joke about making sure everything is picture perfect, you don’t have to be the perfect shopper, hostess, or chef to make sure you and your family have an enjoyable season. After all, if kids can have endless fun with a cardboard box, you can have a truly happy holiday with refrigerated dough, generic knock-off toys, and a dysfunctional family. However you decide to celebrate this year, do it with peace and joy.
Laughing Laura at her Laptop
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